Every relationship has its unique strengths and challenges. As individuals with distinct upbringings, habits, emotions, and desires, the belief systems you've developed about yourself, relationships, sexuality, and intimacy significantly impact how you navigate these differences and the evolving nature of your relationship. Often, outdated and limiting beliefs hinder the creation of true intimacy, harmony, and resilience in long-term partnerships.
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Doing the hard work doesn't have to be so hard
Many of us have heard the phrase, "relationships are hard work," but we believe that the true essence of that 'hard work' is often misunderstood. Working without the right tools can be exhausting, like digging a hole without a shovel. However, with the right skills, tools and guidance, the work put into a relationship will be productive and strengthen your connection. We are here to equip you with those essential tools—the shovel—so you can dig deep, explore the layers of your emotional landscape, and cultivate the intimate relationships you truly desire.
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Examples of normal challenges in relationships that need support:
Feeling unheard and misunderstood by your partner.
You feel as though your partner no longer sees or understands you, and you struggle to communicate your feelings without causing defensiveness and arguments.
Repeated conflict cycles.
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You find yourselves trapped in the same cycle of arguments, unable to break the pattern and make lasting changes.
Loss of intimacy and sexual desire.
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The initial spark has faded, leaving you longing for the playful and intimate connection you once had.
Inauthenticity in the relationship.
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You sense that your partner expects you to be someone you are not, leading to feelings of rejection when you express your true self.
Attraction to others outside of your relationship.
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Despite your deep love for your partner, you find yourself drawn to others, missing the excitement and novelty they bring.
In session
In Couples Therapy, we will explore the essence of your partnership, unravel deep-seated patterns, and address your core challenges. Our goal is to build relational resilience as a couple. You will learn practical communication techniques and frameworks, how to express yourselves without blaming each other, true conflict resolution tools, taking responsibility for your contributions to the relationship, manage jealousy and triggers, and establish authentic boundaries.
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We will help you uncover the true meaning of intimacy for both of you and expand your understanding of how it can evolve, even after years together. Our aim is to equip you with the right tools to create the type of partnership that is tailored to who you authentically are as a couple, and for you to continuously explore, grow, and deepen your connection beyond our sessions.
For our work to be truly effective, both partners must be open and committed to personal and relational growth. You may be assigned "homework" to encourage ongoing development and exploration in your daily lives.
Examples of reasons people come to us for Couples Therapy:
Enhancing communication.
Improving communication styles and learning effective tools to manage intense emotions and
confrontations in a way that fosters mutual understanding and builds connection.
Revitalizing Intimate relationship.
Addressing a lack of intimacy and overcoming sexual blockages to rejuvenate your connection.
Recovering from betrayal.
Navigating the challenges of moving past infidelity and betrayal.
Building strong foundations. Prevention is better than cure, right?
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Receiving guidance on establishing a solid and healthy foundation with a new partner.
Exploring
non-monogamy.
With the growing interest in non-monogamous relationships, many seek support, tools and guidance from experienced professionals to explore what non-monogamy could look like for them.
Practical information
Our sessions are typically conducted individually with either Sara or Bas, allowing for a personalized approach while benefiting from our combined strengths and collaborative expertise for a well-rounded experience.
We welcome both monogamous and non-monogamous, heterosexual and queer individuals and couples into our practice. Your privacy is our priority; every session is handled with professionalism and care to ensure a safe and supportive experience.
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Investment:
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Couples sessions will be with either Sara or Bas, not both (unless desired otherwise).
120 min
€200 per session
in-person in our practice in Alkmaar or online via Zoom.
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