Intimacy, Sex and Relationship Coaching
Learn the skill of
Relationships are here to grow us and most of us are never taught how to navigate them well. ​
When we want to learn something new, we usually don’t do it alone.
We take classes, learn from teachers, get guidance, and practice. We understand that skills develop through learning, not instinct. Relationships are one of the few areas where this logic often disappears.
We’re expected to know how to communicate clearly, stay connected, handle conflict, explore intimacy, and be in partnership — without ever having learned the skills to do so. Instead, we rely on instinct, habit, or what we’ve seen growing up, and wonder why our relationships start to suffer.
Being Intimate exists to change that.
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Why love isn’t enough
Research shows that in the Western world, roughly half of marriages end
in divorce, and 40-50% report being unhappy, unsatisfied and unfulfilled
in their marriage.
That means long-term relationships succeed at much less
than a coin toss. Yet we continue to treat relationships as
something you should just “get right” by choosing the right person.
Loss of love isn't listed as a main reason relationships end.
Because love doesn’t fail. Skills do.
Communication. Intimacy. Repair. Commitment. Resilience.
These are skills: trainable, learnable and practice-based.
It’s not surprising so many people struggle when most of us were
never taught the tools to succeed in the first place.
Relationships shouldn’t be a bad gamble.
But without training, that’s exactly what they are.
At Being Intimate, we teach what school and society largely don’t:
the skills needed to build lasting partnerships, deep connection, and real intimacy.
Master authentic intimacy and communication with practical guidance from
an experienced couple who lives it.
We are Bas and Sara.
We are committed partners in life as well as in this work.
Our sessions are typically conducted with either one of us. At the same time, Being Intimate is grounded in our lived relationship and shared perspectives.
We don’t teach intimacy as an idea. We actively practice the skills we teach — navigating difference, repair, intimacy, and growth in our own partnership.
We translate that practice into clear guidance
for others.
The work in practice
Every person and every relationship brings something different. While we don’t work with one-size-fits-all solutions, our work is grounded in a clear foundation. We focus on how connection is created and disrupted in real time, through communication, presence, boundaries, repair, and embodied experience.
From that shared foundation, the work adapts to you.
We work with both couples and individuals, and welcome monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, as well as heterosexual and queer people into our practice.​​